Acceptance is important for good and bad situations – whether it’s indirect or not. By accepting whatever it is, you can then assess the situation and determine how to move forward. You would think that this is easy to do but for some it’s not. They’ll scramble, make up excuses, get angry, and maybe make bad choices.
For good situations, I know people who will immediately brush off the situation. Whether it’s a good event, an award, a compliment, or another person’s accomplishment. I had a situation about seven years ago when I won an award for Employee of the Year. I couldn’t believe that I had won the award. There were others who deserved the award. When I went up to accept the plaque, I thanked everyone. No speech. A few people were disappointed because I didn’t elaborate, but the director stated that I didn’t have to make a speech. Of course, in hindsight, I wish I would have said a few words. If I would’ve accepted that I had won, I would have been thinking about my speech as I walked up to the podium instead of wondering why me.
For bad situations, accepting what happened will help keep your emotions in order. It means that you know you can’t change the event, which then helps you focus on what needs to happen next. For example, if you’re late for work due to traffic, there’s not much you can do when your idling along with the other cars. If you accept that your stuck, you can think of what needs to occur next (what second route you can take or turning up the tunes to enjoy the music) instead of being angry at the people in the car or cars in front you when they can’t do much either. You don’t need to make a bad situation worse.
Beth M James
http://www.bethmjames.com Novels based on strong characters and elements of romance.
I hope everyone enjoyed their long Thanksgiving weekend. My husband and I hosted dinner on Thanksgiving Day, having family join us for a great afternoon and evening. I then had three full days to tackle my writing goals and knock off some items on my chore list. For the first time in ages, I did not leave my house for the entire four-day weekend. I can’t even remember the last time that happened.
I had an amazing time battling the Morlorns as I worked on the draft to my next book, the third in the “Dream or Reality” series for “The Calling.” While most of you were shopping on Black Friday or on the weekend, I decided to hibernate inside my happy little home. Not only did I write, but I also put up the Christmas decorations, paid bills, cleaned, and spent time with Mike.
Now that I’m refreshed, I’m ready to start the week feeling better about myself, my accomplishments, and happy to get through that battle near the stone dwelling. My characters never get a holiday, but this year I did. I’m ready to rejoin society and take on the outside world once again.
Beth M James
Novels based on strong characters and elements of romance.
Anything military always makes me teary-eyed. I love watching the videos of American soldiers coming home after being deployed. It’s heartwarming to see them reunite with their families. I love watching the motorcycle rides parading down the highway to honor those who have served our country. Yesterday, we pulled to the side of the road to allow them to pass and to show our support.
It’s amazing what these vets have done for our country. I think about my uncles, my dad, and my brother who have passed on. They were proud to have served our country. And I think about my son who has been deployed three times, putting himself in danger and making sacrifices along the way.
And not to forgot all others who have served and continue to serve…I thank you for your service. My heart goes out to the parents who have had sons or daughters who did not come home. One in particular that I’m thinking about today is an EOD who served with my son. He will never be forgotten.
Happy new year to all. For me, this is the official start of the year. I give myself the first day of the year to reflect, transition, and then open the door into the new year.
Last year was rough. Not long into the year, my mom went into hospice care. She steadily declined, becoming weaker in mind and body due to breaking her leg/hip, dementia, and the stroke she had six years previous. It’s not easy seeing someone you love become so lifeless. She died at the end of October and passed peacefully. I still quietly mourn her.
Yesterday was spent at home. Mike and I enjoyed waking up with our grandson’s bright smile and playing dinosaurs and Legos with him. We did small things around the house, spent time together, and watched a movie. No big fanfare, which was nice. We had time to think and simply enjoy the day.
Today is about starting the year with recharged energy. I’m looking forward to what each day brings. My challenges this year will be balancing life and work. I’m ready to take both on, spending quality time with family, friends, and co-workers/writers. I’ve also been editing the second book in The Calling trilogy, which I’m geared to publish this spring.
Let’s make this a great year.
Beth M James
Gitana – Life Plan
The last day of the year can be a time for reflection. You think about your past and what you did in the last year. You then think about what you want to do for the coming year and in the future. Of course, some people just think about the party. Who cares about the past or the future? Let’s just have fun and worry about life later on.
Whatever you decide to do is up to you. For me, I usually reflect both on past and future during the last few weeks of December. By the time New Year’s Eve comes around, I’m tired and ready for the New Year to begin. In reflection, I’m happy with the last year. I’m happy that my final edits are with my editor, and I’m that much closer to ePublishing. Next year, I’ll be an author. Am I looking forward to 2013? You betcha.
Have a safe and happy New Year’s Eve, no matter how you reflect or celebrate.